This book is a big deal to me

The-New-Father-Third-EditionBack in 2003… When I had just learned that I was going to be a dad, I did something that came very natural to me.  I decided to learn about being a Dad.  It is my default mode for almost anything new that  I do.  When I engage this mode I generally head to a library or bookstore.  As this was our first kid, my wife and I went to the bookstore together and made our way to the parenting section and began to browse….  I have news for you all… back in 2003 there was not a lot of how to prepare for a baby aimed at men.  This was only made more evident by the colossal amount of books written for women on the topic…  I mean there were like seven versions of a book on expecting when you are expecting.  I think there was even one on what to expect when you are expecting a book on expecting….

I didn’t give up in my quest and as I made my way through the volumes of books for expectant moms I happened on a book titled “The Expectant Father” by Armin Brott.  No joke, it was the only book for men on how to prepare for your child’s arrival.  I had time to look to because my wife had to narrow her selections down to 3 or 4 from the seemingly hundreds of options.  This book was golden to me.  I think I had read it cover to cover in 2 days… and then I read it again, and again, and again.  I came to find out there were  more books in the series… so when my child was born, I bought the next book, “The New Father” I devoured that one as well.  I have since given these two books away as gifts to expectant fathers 10 or 15 times.  I figured I could save them the trouble of sifting through mount “WhatToExpect”…

In all seriousness though, finding these books was a very key turning point in my life.  They were part of what gave me the confidence in my ability to be a good dad.  That was a very big deal for me.  It has led to relationships that I enjoy with my kids, it led me to blog about my fatherhood experiences, and it has led me to make connections with other dads, all over the world.  I enjoy connections with great Dads that I have met through the Dadblogger Group, Life of Dad, City Dads Group , Chicago Dads Group, The National At Home Dad Network, and The Dad 2.0 Summit… I can trace my involvement in those groups and to becoming a dad blogger myself to finding Armin’s book on a shelf in Barnes and Noble 12 years ago.

Because I have been involved in these groups I have connected with Armin online on a few occasions.  Last year he asked if I would review part of “The New Father” as part of preparing the third edition, which I was more than happy to do, and for which he was gracious enough to include me in the acknowledgments. This is a big deal for me. Since it is a book that helped shape me as a father, I am proud that I had a chance to contribute, in some small part, to it.

If you are looking for something to get someone you love who is about to become a dad I highly recommend these two books, “The Expectant Father” and “The New Father”. (Father’s day is coming up… hint, hint)


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